Ok… so now I watched this “documentary” I ordered on Netflix. It is not all so bad as the raitings were saying but only really appealing for teens. And I am 25 and new all that already so I can already say this: “GET HELP NOW” IS THE MOST IMPORTANT MESSAGE EVER!!!!!
So, but what did this documentary tell me:
more and more young people have eating disorder….
We know that, right?? And I disagree it is not a a trend but more a finally revealed fact.
Those who have an ED are physically worn out.
Yes, they are.
And it is about an obsession with food… Well in the teenage years, maybe yes, but then?? No!! I mean, it starts with that but there is more to it and we will get there….
Also a lot of us struggling with an ED also exercise execessivley, right?! Right. But still it is not a factor that applies to all of us. We are all so different.
Anyway, there cannot be a “Change over night” they say.. Umm… well, I guess not, but we all wished and we also think we can help ourselves…. at least those of us who are into it for a long long time.
The big question for teens though seems to be: how to get help.
I can relate to that very well. I was NEVER skinny and always a little chubby and thus, thought I was not really sick or that no one would believe me anyway. This is very very dangerous and I wished now that I had reached out earlier. It would have saved me from losing so many years of my life…
So, it is all about identifying the problem????
That is part of it.
We all get impressions of how to look:
TV, magazines, society show us the standards to live up to (and NO, this does not only apply to girls). But in the end we cannot blame the media that we don’t have any self consciousness and that we are just because of that obsessed with weight, our look and the competiton with others. The obsession is not the cause and of course we ll know that the medai is big fake place with airbrush and photoshop… so there is no real reason to look like that….
But we all strive for perfection which we will never reach. This is the truth – sorry. Not only is it subjective but it is simply not a goal to strive for, because it would make life and the world so boring!!!!
But, I understand if you say that society makes you think that this or that is what everyone thinks.
So here is what I think is important:
Be comfortable with yourself (how and who you are!!!). If you are not yet, and if you are bulimic you are probably not, get help, because you need to find the DEEPER problems. We are all unhappy, imperfect, right?
We want to take control and try to find a way to do so…
“Be or not to be”
is for us:
“Eat or not eat”
anorexics: don’t
bulimics: throw up
However we forget about the side effects or push them aside, seriously believeing we are not sick just because we are not really losing weight or not skinny enough….
BUT THIS IS so hazardous for teens ut also for people like me who are already 25 or older and I threw away already half of my life…. I have been unable to conentrate, been tired and passed out more than once or twice…
We are mentally and physically sick.
We are hurt inside and it will start showing on the outside. Sooner or later.
Get help SOONER, please!!
For me one of the underlyin reasons was that I never received my dad’s love. So and here I agree in full ith the movie: I hurt myself to reinforce that I am not worthy.
I compared myself and I always wanted to be different… to fix pain. Such a weird and messed up life and mood and my behavior even got to be addictive.
I also never had any self esteem -as most of us….
All I felt was OUT OF CONTROL but the urge to be in control…
I thought I was very emotional, but I was only if it was concerning other people. I cared way too much about other than about myself, because I thought it was a perfect trait to be caring…. BUT: we have to think about oour own self first. If we are not anymore what help can we be??? NONE!!!!
I have to learn to accept my feelings. MINE.
and I need to learn to TALK!!!
I could never tell one of my old friends, but I opened up towards a person who I probably believed was able to take it ( wow, I realize this now, I think I am not telling certain people, because I believe, that they could not deal with it because they are not on my level of understanding…. ok, this probably only makes sense to me 😉 )
Any way, please, everyone GET HELP:
a friend
teacher
counselor
your parents
I know it is about trust and I myself had and have the biggest struggle with that…
but TALK TO SOMEONE!!!
Someone who will provide you with further help.
“You will see the world in a different persepctive and gain purpose back in life”
for me it has been a mind blowing experience so far and I am anxious and excited about what else I will learn.
I am finding myself and that it also what EDS are about.
It seriously may help you if you have someone else tell you that you are in danger. My ex “bf” did that. He is amazing.
I have a t
people just need to listen for hours to get weight off
PLUS therapist listening to me, but him listening means a lot to me. The world.
So, also keep in mind to learm about nutrition and other healthy life choices. so, no medications (it#s just addictive, exoensive and unhelpful! If there was medication that would work, there would be no me or you or at least the probelm and situation we are in would have already been solved and someone out there who would be a billionaire….
Learn how to diet correctly and drink enough water, get a balanced exercise to be happy with yourself and your appearance. Don’t rely on others or their approval.. I mean, why???
This was the equation he movie served me with:
H [health] + S [success] = [a&sY] accepting and supporting yourself!!!
BE YOURSELF!
Be happy with yourself
Start with getting help and try to figure out your vwry own personal problems.
It may take time but your attitude is all that matters
The body is THE part of us : physically, emotionally, intellectualy and all this works together to make us wonderful!!!
Good night everyone.
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