Is that it? Is that how it feels like? Really? Is it that easy?
So here is my day and how I made it NOT to binge and NOT to purge and to OVERCOME the urge.
I got up early, I started my day at Starbucks and had a Soy Chai and a Very Berry Coffeecake. A conscious choice. Not the most healthy food, not the most unhealthy neither, simply something I felt like eating. I enjoyed it very much, sitting on the porch at Starbucks, checking my email, browsing the web a bit and having a cigarette. The only one in a few days and the only one for a few days. I just felt like it.
So, I went to the Department, prepared class and went over to the other building to teach.
I love teaching. I love it. It is so much fun and so fulfilling. I have some really smart kids sitting in there and they really make me stun. It shows me how great the human being is and how complex we are indeed, too.
After teaching I had to carry like 40 notebooks back… It was a hassle. I had an earlier lunch break than usually, simply because I was hungry. I did not really have time, but I took my time. I even did not bother about thinking about the pile of work waiting for me. I had a good conversation with a colleague and then had to see one of my profs. Good indeed, too. I remembered that I can do it. I felt good about what I was doing. I saw the light at the end glimming for a second. Long enough to lighten my day.
I had a snack after class and went on with my work. Finished it at 4.30 and decided to keep on working.
My mom called in between and I got home at like 7pm. Finally. Still exhausted.
I had a good dinner: salad, grain bread with deli turkey and goat cheese.
BUT….
then I would eat a bit Haribo. Bad idea. I began counting calories, I started feeling bad about the, well, two handfull of candy treats… and I thought, well I could binge and purge it all…
BUT…
it was not me thinking that. It was Bulimia. She was getting louder and louder, and then her friend joined it. The one who controls my starving. He (I don’t know why it’s a male friend), well he was being very sarcastic. Telling me how proud he was that I starved in the past, that I did really good on those days, but that this was wrong, that I am ruining it all. “Can’t you feel your pants getting tighter?” “Can’t you see the fat on your body?”
Yes, certainly I could. Certainly. I still can.
BUT…
For the sake of my life, I fucking don’t care.
I don’t care as long as I can feel myself, my emotions, me being alive.
In fact my dear friends made me walk to the kitchen about 10 times. Back and forth – forth and back. I opened the fridge. No real easy binge foods. I opened the freezer. No real easy binge foods either. I opened the boards. Nope…
Ok, there were some foods I could turn into binge foods. I had sugar. I had condiments. I had butter and salt and all that…
You can steal from your roommates food.
Ok, no. That was enough. I left the kitchen.
That’s not what I want.
I walked around a bit. Very lost. Confused. But then slowly my spirit came back.
And here I am watching a movie. I drank a diet coke. I usually don’t because it makes me feel bloated. And I feel that way, but I don’t care, because I am just proud I defeated that urge. I did it. And I will in the future. This is not equal the control I was exercising in terms of counting on a number on the scale, counting calories or minutes running or exercising. It was all about being conscious about what I do. Not numbing myself out, but standing through the pain.
It is a great feeling to be strong.
It really is. And Bulimia and this stupid starving friend are fighting now on their own, accusing each other for failing, for being weaker than my consciousness. haha, fuck you!