Another month has passed and I have made great progress. Strange. But I feel good. I feel calm, more at ease. I can’t deny that I have bad days still, or sometimes feel like I just want to hide or disappear, but I have developed a kind of strength that helps me fight. It’s a good feeling to know that I can actually be in control. Not over my actions, but over my thoughts and feelings in and about life. Bulimia and Anorexia were not really giving me strength. I controlled my food intake with Ana, and with Mia I was able to escape feelings. Back and forth… But at what cost? I lost sense of self. I got lost in a world concerned with calories, exercise,fear of food, comparison, negativity and self-destructive perfectionism and behaviors. Risking my life actually. Suicidal thoughts, blackouts, fatigue, depression, irritability… Did I really want that? I was just mislead. I thought that in the end all would be perfect. I would be perfect. Such a lie. Such wrong thinking. Lost living.
I would have never been perfect enough, but most likely would I have lost everything, including my life. I have risked a lot and I have lost a lot, but today I am able to take a step back. I am so thankful for recovery and everyone who had contributed to it. My nutritionist, who helped me back up, who basically has saved my life. My therapist who I have resisted a lot but who lead me on the right way. Cedar Springs and all the wonderful people I met there. Without this path of recovery I would not be where I am right now. And I should give credit to my own self: without my will to fight I wouldn’t be either. Even though it still feels strange, in a way even a little bit pretentious, to talk kindly to myself, to accept imperfection and to just be me, I can say already that I am about to embrace life. I’m on a new path, using healthier tolls, relying on my true self. Yet I don’t know my true self, but that’s life’s challenge, and isn’t it exciting to be the witness of your own evolving self? Every day provides the opportunity to reveal another part of yourself, to reflect, to love and to live. I am in a place now where I can allow all these negative feelings, because I am learning to accept them as an essential part of life. Without pain we would not even know what happiness feels like. Can’t pain be positive? Sounds like an oxymoron, but it’s all in my hand. Self-compassion towards myself is the key to well-being. After a long and dangerous journey I have finally found the key, now I have to travel back to unlock my potentials. But on the way back, I am looking ahead, I keep my head up high and my eyes open. I may stumble, I may fall, but I will not lose faith.
May I be safe.
May I be peaceful.
May I be healthy.
May I live at ease.
I have to add what I just read in my horoscope (I am not superstitious but this one gives me daily messages that are actually very empowering, kind of like positive affirmations) it fits well to what I just said earlier:
Add a little spice to your life, Capricorn. If your experiences have all seemed a bit bland lately, it may be time to step out of your comfort zone and invigorate your sense of self. You do tend to get yourself in a rut every now and then, and then you stay trapped there until someone or something comes along to shake things up. But this time you need to be the mover and the shaker, and to set a new and more positive pattern for adapting and evolving. If you’re stuck in a groove, it’s up to you to change things.